Living and Dying

Life continues to throw curves, in a baseball analogy as we approach true spring. We make changes, evolve, grow this way or that, decide what’s important and what isn’t, and even start using the Oxford comma. Ah, life. Questions do remain.

Is LinkedIn required? Let’s see – retired 15-16 months ago and with a narrow focus on what professional interests continue. Maybe that tool is no longer needed. That narrow focus is in a couple of areas that expand when confronted. “Mentoring” or assisting someone to grasp the view of what they need to do to accomplish things done in my life is the philosophical or psychological one. Maybe if one likes to explore concepts relative to a career, as me, then this is a natural interest. Another interest continues to be the “research” phase, including the Society of Actuaries survey committee. While less active, obviously, one still has that historical perspective and involvement in various surveys over time that creates that bond of interest. AHOU and the educational services it offers is another – and that role is more historical or “sounding board-like.” Not sure that LinkedIn is a necessity.

Where to live and where to die? Things change in life that result in a reevaluation at times. Grand Haven is a great place – and recently recognized as one of the top five places to retire. There are a lot of friends here. Mesa looked like a great option to me as well – there were fewer people known in that area, but two of my best friends recently retired there. Mesa wasn’t in the top five places, but the area has a lot to offer. And then there is returning to my roots, going home to Indianapolis – or near there. As people go through those evolutionary changes, one thing remains the same and that is history, including the early years. Nashville, Indiana, is likely my favorite option when considering a return “home.”

What about family? That does impact the homeward look. The recent presidential election was brutal on some redeveloping sibling relationships. That wouldn’t stop me, though. You would think at some time there might be grandchildren in the picture and the ease of visiting them becomes a concern. Oh, sure – don’t necessarily live a block away, but make it possible to have visitors for the evening or for a day. That’s tougher when you’re almost five hours away by car and longer if you really try to fly (“can’t get here from there” scenario).

What’s love got to do with it? Nothing? Becoming comfortable with myself has taken some time since my status change as Facebook calls it. Now that there’s been success, then the “need” for having a new “love” has been vanquished. Oh, yes, there are great people to spend time with and a lot of them in Grand Haven. But being happy caring for the dogs and having “just friends” – none of that seriousness, please – makes life far less complicated. Could that change? Yes. Is it necessary to change? No.

So, uprooting and making other possibilities come more to life makes sense. Loving the industry worked in for over 43 years doesn’t mean you cannot walk away or reduce involvement anyway. Getting rid of another “social media” (albeit more professional) is fine. Finding my place to set down those roots for living and dying doesn’t mean it has to be a top place for everyone. It has to work for me. When “Peanut” arrives (the name given by my daughter and son-in-law for their child expected in October – and my first grandchild), there needs to be in my heart and mind the sense that maybe the end-phase of one life can take some form in celebrating the beginning-phase of others with quality time. Life is good and will be better. So, what homes are for sale in Nashville?